It is Wednesday, time to feature one of my favourite bloggers. When you have cancer, it is easy to let yourself get down and focus on the negative. It takes a special person to look beyond the disease and discover the blessings hidden beneath. Introducing Rachel……
A fellow cancer patient and new friend wrote a blog post last week stating that she didn’t quite get the whole blessings in disguise thing. She’s heard it mentioned in various places, but just didn’t quite understand if they were blessings, why do they have to be disguised. Good question, no? Why can’t we just receive blessings, no strings attached or trials involved?
She certainly doesn’t feel like her cancer is a blessing at all and who can blame her! Fearing for your life, chemo that makes you very sick, losing your hair – none of those things remotely resemble what any of us would consider blessings at all.
This was my response to her:
I don’t think the cancer, itself, is a blessing, but my experience has been that I have received many blessings because of having cancer. Many of these blessings are things I would have never experienced were it not for having cancer such as the love and care of friends, the fresh eyes that I am now seeing my life through, and the way the diagnosis has created an even stronger bond between my husband and myself. The cancer is mean, harsh, and destructive, but I am determined that it will not drag me down to its level. I’m trying hard to focus on the best parts of it and think as little as possible about the negative side. I think the blessings aspect of having cancer is easier to accept the farther away we get from diagnosis. On day one, there was too much shock, too much fear and too many tears to even think about blessings. Nine months into this, I’m able to have a better perspective on the whole thing. Hope you are doing well today and feeling strong!
I can see where she’s coming from because we tend to think (and would LOVE for) blessings to be awesome, wonderful, and all full of happiness and light. But that’s not necessarily going to the be the case all the time. We may receive straight out blessings in our lives that did not require us to go through a any sort of trial before hand, but there are definitely going to be trials, struggles, hardships, and turmoil that may ultimately result in blessings.
Whether we have cancer or not, I think it has a lot to do with perspective because God is placing blessings in our path – we just have to recognize them for what they are. And sometimes – often in fact – they are not always recognizable as such until after the fact.
Cancer itself is not a blessing, it’s a nasty disease that robs people of everything from their hair to their dignity and sometimes, ultimately, their life on earth. So, no, cancer is not a blessing. But because of cancer, I have been blessed in more ways than I can count, and here are some of the biggies:
- My love and respect for my husband has been multiplied by 1,000 as I watch him love and care for me through this.
- I see life through different eyes. Not bitter eyes, but grateful eyes. Every moment with family, every sunrise, even every tiny daily annoyance is a gift to be appreciated.
- Cancer is a motivator. It is propelling me to do and try some things I would have never done or tried before (like blogging for one).
- People have reached out to me, shared their hearts with me, and shown me how much they love me because of cancer. WHAT a gift – and a blessing – that has been.
Whether your trial is cancer or illness, a job loss, a house that won’t sell, a rebellious child, or an annoying co-worker, I hope that you will take some time to step back and look for some of the blessings that may be hidden in these difficulties. Be open to receiving them. You may be surprised what you find!