Perk # 36: Being Told How Great I Look



Last night, I attended a Christmas dinner with my sister, Juana and BFF, Jackie.  Everyone was dressed in their finery and the compliments were whizzing by like bullets: “You look awesome”; “Love your dress”; “Looking great!”  At one point, a lady turned to me and said, “You must be getting sick of people always telling you how good you look.”  I thought about it for a moment and said, “Naw!”

Even when I look like my “Before” picture, I still get showered with compliments everywhere I go in my small town.   Now come on folks, I know deep inside that when people say, “You look great”, they mean “For someone with cancer”, but hey I’m 44, I’ll take what I can get.  Yeah, I’m really going to miss those compliments when I recover.

Tip:  If you have cancer, get used to people commenting on how you look, and learn to graciously accept a compliment.  A simple “thank you” will suffice.

16 thoughts on “Perk # 36: Being Told How Great I Look

  1. Hi, Florence.

    I’m slightly older than you (45) and have actually devoted some time to think about how I would handle it if something big were to come my way… cancer, loss of mobility, loss of sight… you know, something BIG.

    And I thought to myself that I would fight like a savage while at the same time living gracefully with my condition. I thought I might find some something positive in the situation and I thought that I would not be a burden to my friends and family, especially my children! No, I would find some way of sharing this with them that would make things less awkward for them, teach the kids that you don’t have to give up and LET my family and friends help me survive.

    Yes, I’d be the cat’s ass! And people would think I was SO fabulous and strong. They’d be talking about me all over the place…

    And then I read your blog and I think “Damn it! Florence is already doing that!”.

    So, I must go find a new plan now or else be content to be in your shadow should the need ever arise for me to well, rise to the occasion. (Fingers crossed that I never need to choose, you know…)

    I am not responding to a particular post. I just wanted to say that I’m reading your blog… it’s great. And I wanted to say that I’m here rooting for you whether you wanted me to or not 🙂

    Cecelia (Lambe) David
    Michelle’s sister

    • That is funny Cecilia. I do remember you from school, but I don’t think I’ve seen you since the 80’s. Hopefully you will never have anything to “blog” about 🙂 Although with your sense of humor I am sure you would do an awesome job.

  2. Hi
    Just saw your story on the news.
    I am a priest in the Anglican Church, originally from Newfounland and now living in Windsor, ON. You are an inspiration. I will put a link to your blog on my blog at and on my FB page. Thank you for sharing your story with others.
    God Bless you with strength
    Kevin George

  3. I just read your blog and I have to say you are amazing. I love your positive attitude.I believe everyone should take a few minutes to read and realize that we all have so much to be thankful for. I will ask our prayer group to pray for you also. God bless you.

  4. Thank you for sharing your cancer journey and highlighting all the “perks”. I have accompanied my son through his own journey recently and you are right, there ARE a lot of wonderful things that happen along the way. I have shared your website with a friend who finished her chemo last week and I will be mentioning you in my daily prayers. 🙂

    • thank you Rachael. I have my last chemo tomorrow, not looking forward to the next couple of weeks, but then it is done. Thank you for sharing my blog, it is what keeps me going while I am knocked down from chemo treatments. Please continue to share!

  5. You are an inspiration Florence to every cancer patient out there!!! Maintaining a positive attitude is half the battle and you definately have a fantastic attitude! Just imagine how many others you are helping along your journey – another “perk” of having cancer for sure. Take care!

  6. Florence, you are an inspiration. You could be a “woe is me” but you have chosen to make lemonade from the lemons. Perhaps, if you’re like me, you actually like lemons. I love the fact that you have a ‘top 10′ and more of the benefits of your particular trial. I love the fact that you can laugh. Such a positive outlook has proven to be very beneficial to one’s health and probably to others as well. My very best wishes for continued progress. God bless you and yours.

  7. Hi Florence,
    You do look great by the way. Our daughter Susan was diagnosed at age 13 months with a rare childhood cancer called Retinoblastoma. She lost one eye to the disease and had to go through a myriad of chemos and laser and cryotherapies. She is 19yrs old now and is in her 2nd year of University doing a bio chem degree with a hope to do medicine. Her experience with Cancer I believe has led her to be the strongwilled and determined person she is today. She has many prosthetic eyes that she has gathered over the years and she likes to use them to play tricks on people, particularly to plant them on unsuspecting individuals and she gets a great lot of fun from the squeals and laughs when they discover the eyes in a drink or on their dinner plate. Living with Cancer has taught us so many things and a each day goes by I am sure we will learn so much more.
    Take Care Florence

    Mary Ann Baker

  8. Hi Florence, you look great ,wishing you a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year,keeping you in our prayers.I know you are an inspiration to many ,Thanks!

  9. Well, I will give you another of those such comments……….if you look that good in a bathrobe how can you “not” make that dress look great….

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